Since we had to cancel a meeting in December due to bad weather, we combined two lessons in one to finish up Set 5 of the Bright Lights curriculum on January 30. The topics were very closely related and we had a lot to talk about as we looked at the lessons “Disrespect” and “Honoring Our Parents”.
We have talked about honoring parents in previous Bright Lights lessons, but this is an area that most of us struggle with every day. It’s an area that Satan tries so hard to destroy in our lives, because our relationship with our parents should be a picture of our relationship with our Heavenly Father. As young people, Satan wants us to make foolish choices that ruin our lives rather than listening to our parents’ wisdom and counsel. So this is such an important issue in the life of a young lady who wants to serve the Lord and be a bright light for Him.
We talked about the importance of wanting a good relationship with our parents, choosing to stay under their authority and protection, maintaining a clear conscience with them, and not keeping secrets from them. It takes humility to do these things, especially since we know that our parents aren’t perfect. We have the challenging example of Jesus in this area – He was perfect, yet He choose to be subject to His earthly, imperfect parents (Luke 2:51).
Disrespect is opposite of honor, and is actually a sign of rebellion, an outward evidence of an inner attitude. Disrespect can be very subtle and so it seem like a very small thing, but the Bible makes it clear just how serious it is (2 Kings 2:23-24; Prov. 20:20; Ex. 21:15, 17; Prov. 30:17). Attitude is key – if you have the right attitude there will be no disrespect. If you have a wrong attitude it will be almost impossible to avoid disrespect. Having a grateful attitude – remembering all that our parents have done and continue to do and sacrifice for us – makes it a whole lot easier to show them honor. Let’s not just eliminate disrespect from our lives, but replace it with gratefulness and honor to our parents. Young people who honor and respect their parents will stand out as bright lights in today’s world.
Disrespect is an outward sign of an inward problem. Many young ladies allow anger, wrong thoughts, and bitterness grow in their hearts toward their parents and it reveals itself in the form of disrespect. Bitterness clouds our thinking, cripples our ability to respond with humility, and prevents us from showing true honor as God commands us. Bitterness may start small and seem harmless, but it grows rapidly and becomes a huge danger in our lives. It’s very difficult to honor and respect someone who has wronged you, or when you don’t agree with them, or think they dealt with a situation wrongly, yet God calls us to forgive just as He has forgiven us (Eph. 4:31-32), and to respect our parents and their authority.
Honoring our parents can be very difficult a lot of times, but the rewards far outweigh the struggles. God promises blessings for us as we purpose to honor our parents in everything and respond to them in a godly way. Ultimately, we are not just honoring our parents – we are honoring the Lord!
After the lesson, we split up into small groups for discussion on how we struggle with being respectful to our parents, and practical ways to honor them in everyday life.
We did skits for our activity (and everyone cheered when I announced that). Each group was given a scenario and needed to come up with one in which they were disrespectful, and one in which they honored their parents. Here’s some pictures from the skits:
Scenario: You’ve had a rough day and are trying to finish your “To Do” list before supper time when your mom unexpectedly asks you to make supper because she is so busy…
Scenario – Your friend recommends a movie to you, but your parents don’t want you to watch it. All your friends have seen it and say it’s a good movie…
Scenario – You are shopping with your mom and find some a cute clothes. However, once you try them on, your mom doesn’t think they’re appropriate, although you think they’re perfectly fine…
Scenario – Your mom tells you that she thinks that you are spending too much time on the internet…
We ended our time together with tea and snacks provided by Rose, Becky, and the N ladies. It was wonderful to fellowship with so many of you who haven’t been able to make it out for the past couple of meetings!
I want to finish this post with a quick reminder about the Creation/Evolution debate tomorrow between Bill Nye the Science Guy and Ken Ham of Answers in Genesis. You can watch the live stream tomorrow evening – find our more at DebateLive.org.